How to Date an INFJ

1. Compliment them. INFJs tend to be writers and word enthusiasts. Complimenting them will help start the conversation. An original one will get their attention, but be careful not to get too weird on a compliment or it’ll just come off playful… not flirtatious.

2. If you have to cancel, apologize sincerely. Get them a gift. Reschedule. If you do this a lot — consider yourself out of their interest.

3. Write them a letter. Be classy and old fashioned. It’ll catch them off guard.

4. If they have a pet, treat them like a queen or king. INFJs are all about cute children and animals.

5. Get along with their families. INFJs hold a special place in most families.

6. Take a shower. Dress nice.

7. Be flexible. Being too strict or rigid might throw them off.

8. INFJs have moments where they will say something sharply out of the blue. Don’t investigate it too much. They’re being direct with you. They’re probably right about something, so don’t try to shake things up too much.

9. Treat them to a nice dinner.

10. Do you have a bachelor pad or bachelorette pad? They won’t think that’s cool at all.

11. Learn plenty of skills to impress them. Languages, musical instruments, dances, and whatever. Keep the conversation toward their interests.

12. INFJs are great eavesdroppers. If they understand the conversation and know of anything related — they’ll chime in. Try to help them by going toward categories they understand

13. Asking them to help you with your homework means you’re asking for homework help. This doesn’t go much else with them.

14. If they’re already taken — you don’t stand a chance.

15. Console them if their really emotional. Reassure them gently.

16. Don’t smother them too much. That will send them into introverted retreat mode.

17. If you get too lazy and make them feel more like a maid or servant — they might drop you.

18. They will love you to the moon and back and be obsessed with you if they see a great connection. When they are ready to cut you if you cross them, they’ll completely cut you from their lives.

19. Probably not into sports.

20. Give them a hug every time you see them.